Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
My daughter is at a birthday sleepover tonight. She has only spent the night at someone else’s house about three different times; two of those times were with cousins. You could say we are over-protective, but it really is just the case that we want to be sure our daughter is in safe hands! If I don’t know the family well enough, I won’t let her go to their house at all or I make sure that I at least visit the family at their home before she goes over.
It is getting more difficult as she gets older, especially as she is now in secondary school. We now have to trust that she is making the best choices about who she hangs out with and becomes friends with.
We have been blessed with our children. Most days we are astounded by the decisions our children make or the selfless things they do. Our daughter is the kind of girl who calls us to check whether marshmallows are considered sweets as they are roasting them over the campfire tonight. (She gave up sweets for Lent!). I don’t know many children who are this mature or would even consider this especially during a birthday party-she would have had to have said she was calling her parents in front of her friends!
The one thing our children are not lacking is confidence. We have raised them to be leaders and not followers; courageous enough to always do what is right, even if it means going against the crowd. My daughter is now at the age where her character and integrity is tested every day. Being in secondary school, she now faces more independence than she ever has.
This is now when the true test takes place. We have raised her with strong morals and values and now will watch her spread her wings; we pray she always flies in the right direction.
She now sets an example for our son, who looks up to her and watches every small thing that she does.
Parenting is a roller coaster of emotions, but one that you never want to get off of once you are buckled in. We can only do the very best that we know how to do; but we must remember that we only get one chance to get it right…….